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Monday, October 31, 2005



IT - yep, we've all seen the new ebay ads... whatever IT is you can find it on Ebay. So, I'm out in the kitchen tonight and I hear a blast from my past...



Oh, I could hide ’neath the wings
Of the bluebird as she sings.
The six o’clock alarm would never ring.
But it rings and I rise,
Wipe the sleep out of my eyes.
My shavin’ razor’s cold and it stings.

Cheer up, sleepy Jean.
Oh, what can it mean.
To a daydream believer
And a homecoming queen.

You once thought of me
As a white knight on a steed.
Now you know how happy we can be.
And our good times start and end
Without dollar one to spend.
But how much, baby, do we really need.

Cheer up, sleepy Jean.
Oh, what can it mean.
To a daydream believer
And a homecoming queen.

Is it an ad for The Monkees - are they reviving the old show? I go in the living room to find out why this old song is playing and lo and behold...yep! IT is an ebay commercial!!!! Oh what can IT mean... whatever IT is you can find IT on ebay! Sigh!!


Sunday, October 30, 2005


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Saturday at the mall! I know it's Sunday, but was too tired yesterday to write much here and wanted to tell about all the doings at the mall. At least the ones I was involved in. As you know a few of us went back to the old TOPS group, and Linda, one of the women who went with me decorated a basket full of donations from local businesses and they auctioned it off yesterday. I don't know who the winner is yet, but they did raise over $200 to donate to Shaw AFB for the holiday baskets for the Katrina families living there. Linda also called me with a challenge. She had conquered one of her fears and donated blood for the first time in her life and since I am a seasoned donor and they needed people do give I took the challenge and went over and donated too. I told them I only did it for the pretzels and orange juice. My brother and his wife were there so we had fun chatting and catching up. You wouldn't believe we only live a couple blocks from each other, but when your lives get so busy somehow time slips by. They also had a celebrity dunking but I didn't participate in that one. Also passed by the baked goods... mmm mmm...but I am doing so good these past few weeks I didn't want to blow it. Been walking three times a week, riding my bike in between, and really doing good on the food intake. Have lost 6 pounds the past couple weeks!! Yea!!! Well, just wanted to post my Saturday since it was such a good one. Happy Halloween!!! Image Hosted by ImageShack.us


Saturday, October 29, 2005



Halloween Weekend For halloween I'm going to post some great pics I've taken...todays picture is of our cat Ginger. I was taking a really sweet picture of her sitting on the bookcase, when one of the kittens walked by and.. well, you can see by her reaction how she feels about the kittens!


Thursday, October 27, 2005


How cool is this? The college, where my husband teaches, is planning a Saturday workshop of games. They want to get the students using strategy and realizing that games are also a teaching tool. They've asked me to do a workshop on Scrabble! Gee, I wonder why they would ask me...okay anyone who knows me realizes I love the game and am pretty good at it. My husband will be doing a workshop on Monopoly the same day. What fun!!! Image Hosted by ImageShack.us



In case you're wondering where I've been... About 4 months ago Keith's knee started bothering him and so to exercise it he was walking up and down the stairs at the school. On one of the down trips - about 6 weeks ago - he did something to his ankle and it has been causing him grief ever since. We have been to one doctor who put one of those velcro style casts on it (ones you can take on and off) and gave him pain pills and told him to rest it a few days. So he did that, and since that week was midterms I spent the days driving between school and home with tests, picking up tests, taking back graded tests, picking up grade sheets...etc etc etc....

Then he felt it was better but still couldn't drive so I began driving him to school (which is why I have so much computer time now - it's what I do waiting for him). Yesterday we went to the orthopedic doctor and he told him the side of his foot is bending in and that is causing pressure on a ligament so...here I am today while he teaches his first class and from here we go to get some things put in his shoes that we hope will help. If they don't work the next step is they will build a special brace for him and if that doesn't help he will have to have surgery on the foot. We are hoping it doesn't go that far....

So, I apologize for not returning phone calls, not being available for walks during the week, etc etc etc.... When I am home there are still litter boxes to empty, rooms to clean, laundry to get done.... so I am just a little stretched out right now. Hopefully, my friends and relatives visit my blog and will get this information because I am just too tired to call most evenings.

And on one last note.... GO WHITE SOX!!!!


Wednesday, October 26, 2005


Party Cats! I'm not saying our cats misbehave while we're gone or take advantage and party...but... well you judge for yourself from the hidden cam video I got...

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Wednesday Mind Hump

Hello humpers! It's your memeduck filling in once again for Friday. Today's theme is Mule Day. Mule Day! I don't really understand that one, so I'm going to ask some Halloween-themed questions. Let the humping begin!

1. Got any plans for this year's Halloween? Dressing up? Going to a spooky party? Taking the kids out trick or treating? Tell us your plans!

Well, since I love halloween I couldn't let this meme pass!

I'll be handing out treats at my house. I will dress all in black including black cape and wear a scream mask. Sitting on a black chair facing the house I will watch for trick-or-treaters and as they approach the house I will sneak up behind them, with my bowl of candy of course, and in a spooky voice ask... are you looking for something?
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2. What's the funniest or craziest costume you've ever worn for Halloween? If you can't remember what you wore, you can tell us about a costume you saw someone else wear.

I think the craziest costume was when I went to a party as the bride of dracula. My aunt had sewn me a beautiful white cape and I painted my face and wore fake vampire teeth. That was the most fun I'd had as an adult dressing up.
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3. What's your favorite scary movie? There are two that really get to me.
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And... The Haunting of Hill House
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4. What's your favorite kind of candy? Candy corn and chocolate covered peanuts.
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The rules are, there are no rules!!! All you need to do is copy and paste the above questions into your blog and add your responses. After you've finished, return here and leave us a comment so we'll know you've humped. Be sure your hump is linked back to http://bdinsanity.blogdrive.com so others can hump too.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. If one of the questions doesn't inspire you then simply "pass" it. Just use your imagination!

If you don't have a blog or you're an exhibitionist *woo hoo* feel free to hump right here in our comments section. There's absolutely no pressure ... although it's called the Wednesday Mind Hump you can hump on any day.


Tuesday, October 25, 2005



Tuesdays at the coffee shop! It's funny but my husband looks forward to my tuesdays with my journal group as much as I do. Why you ask? Because he has a long break between classes and after the journal meeting and our walk around town we end up back at the coffee shop. Since he is still between classes I pick up a cup of decaf Irish cream coffee for him to enjoy and make the rest of the day more pleasant. He calls it his Irish Cream coffee day. There's something about drinking coffee from a styro-foam to-go cup that makes it taste special.

Today we had a great meeting and were joined by another coffee drinker and discussed an upcoming day outing to Congaree Park. It's a wilderness trail I have been to and loved so we are planning to go for a long nature hike in November.

We walked our extra two blocks today - we add two more each week - and it was such a beautiful day we didn't even feel it. With the cool air you just get more and more invigorated as you go. ah!! my favorite time of the year.


Monday, October 24, 2005


Monday Music Mambo - Week 70

Greetings everyone! It's your music-mad memeduck checking in again. This week's mambo is too hot to touch! The theme for the day is Match Day. So put on that firefighter suit and come mambo with me!!

1. What fire-related music moment do you think tops them all? Jimi Hendrix lighting his guitar on fire, Keith Moon's drum set exploding, Michael Jackson's jheri curl catching fire during a Pepsi commercial, or Left Eye of TLC setting her boyfriend's house on fire? If you can think of one I didn't list that's even better, let's hear about it!

More on the disastrous side of fire-related music moments was the one that started off the new year for Buenos Aires on Jan 1 2005. AP , BUENOS AIRES
Saturday, Jan 01, 2005,Page 1

Fire roared through a Buenos Aires nightclub packed with youngsters attending a rock concert, killing at least 174 people and injuring some 410 in one of Argentina's worst disasters in decades.

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2. Is there a CD/LP/mp3 in your collection that you'd like to watch burn down to nothing? It could be a current album that you're embarassed to own, or an album you bought in the past that you regret buying.

Neal Young - Old Ways (need I say more?)

3. What musical performance, either live or recorded, do you think was so smokin' hot that the fire brigade should have been called?

Paul Simon Rhythm of the Saints

4. Ok this isn't a match question, but sort of related. Have you ever held up a lighter during a concert? If not, would you ever and what band would you do it for?

Yes, Joan Baez was playing at of all places, the Ganon Auditorium in Erie, PA and she was my hero! And even in my late 50's if I had the chance to see her again in concert I would do it again!! Love ya Joan!!!!

The rules are, there are no rules!!! All you need to do is copy and paste the above questions into your blog and add your responses. After you've finished, return here and leave us a comment so we'll know you've Mamboed. Be sure your Mambo is linked back to http://bdinsanity.blogdrive.com so others can dance too.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. If one of the questions doesn't inspire you then simply "pass" it. Just use your imagination and dance like crazy!


Saturday, October 22, 2005



There's a sign post up ahead.... Well, at least I think there's a sign post that follows us from place to place. I was sitting here at my computer, doing some work on my online business, when I heard a cat crying outside my window. All our cats are indoor cats now, so I knew it wasn't one of them. I went out to investigate and there was a beautiful white cat with gray splotches on it sitting there crying at the house. So, I took it out some food, and it came over and started chowing down. Of course, it sees our cats in the window and figured with all those fat cats there must be good eats in there. No, we will not adopt this one!!! Nein to nine!!!


Friday, October 21, 2005


Ashley update! As of yesterday Ashley had recieved 24!! yes, 24 post cards from different states. The teacher thinks no one will get any from Hawaii or Alaska... ah, ye of little faith! I know for sure she is getting one from Hawaii and Bernie knows someone is Alaska she is asking so I have a feeling we're going to cover those states too. But remember, duplicates are great because then she can help other students who don't get many. So, keep those cards coming...remember to write a line or two about the state. You can send them to:

Waterford Elementary School
Ashley L. - 2nd Grade
P.O. Box 811
Waterford, PA 16441

Thanks to everyone who has already sent her a card and thanks to those who are going to!!!


Wednesday, October 19, 2005


Irish Cream coffee: In a couple minutes I'll be sitting down with a cup of Irish Cream coffee and watching jeopardy. No, not the liquor Irish Cream but the dairy Irish Cream flavoring. And decaf coffee. A pleasant wind down time at the end of the day. Things are going well with my little journal group. We meet on tuesday at the Brick Street Coffee Shop, which is where I got hooked on the Irish Cream coffee. It's a different kind of journaling. We keep food diaries, and not only write what we ate and drank, but how our day was going and what we were feeling. We write about things that make us happy, upset us, etc. It's a full spectrum picture of why we eat what we do when we do. After we read each others journals we write comments in the journal and then discuss what we did right, what we did wrong, and how we can change the latter. Then we walk...each time we add two more blocks to the walk so we are getting more and more exercise. It's fun and we're seeing a lot of the downtown area. On Sunday evenings we meet at Swan Lake and walk around the lake. We talk, we laugh, we just enjoy the friendship and the beautiful weather we're having now. I'm certainly not complaining! It's nice and cool at night and early morning, then warms up to the 80's towards late afternoon. I'm not complaining because with the skyrocketing fuel bills so far we haven't had to turn on the heat (propane) and it's the middle of October. Well, time to go catch jeopardy. Hope everyone else is having a good time too.




Playing Hooky: Keith has a 10 a.m. class and then a 2 P.M. class today, so in between he has to go back to the FastER to have his ankle rechecked, which of course, means I am driving. So I drove him to school and am waiting for his class to end to drive him to the next place and then back to school. So, there is no housework to do, no cats in my way, no phone calls to make...so here I sit in school and feeling like I'm playing hooky! Ahhhhh.....


Tuesday, October 18, 2005


Postcards from around the USA! My sister, in PA, called me a couple weeks ago with a project. Her 7 year old granddaughter, who is in 2nd grade, had a project to get postcards from as many states as possible, with a bit of information about the state written on the card. So, I sent out emails to all my friends who sent out emails to their friends and family. By the end of last week I had promises for at least 23 cards, from different states, and so far 13 have arrived!! Thank you Victoria! Bernie! Priscilla! Glenda! and all my scrabble playing buddies for sending cards and for getting their friends and family to send cards. I am going to post the mailing address here for anyone who visits to send a card. It doesn't matter if she gets duplicates because they can trade with each other or just give someone a duplicate of theirs...so here it is...and thanks again!!! You guys are the greatest!!!

Send a postcard of your state with a blurb about the state to:

Waterford Elementary School
Ashley L. - 2nd Grade
P.O. Box 811
Waterford, PA 16441




Oct 16, 2005
Random 10 Week 26

10 songs that sum up your weekend...or were on your weekend playlist...and one picture that relates back. (oh, and if you feel like it, tell us why you picked the songs you did).

1. Cat Scratch Fever - Ted Nugent
2. Cat in the Window - Petula Clark
3. They're Coming to Take Me Away - Napoleon XIV
4. Going Going Gone - Bob Dylan
5. Crazy - Patsy Cline
6. Both Sides Now - Judy Collins
7. (The) Circle Game - Joni Mitchell
8. Unemployment Line - Arlo Guthrie
9. Dizzy Miss Lizzy - The Beatles
10.Tapestry - Carole King

Well, in case you haven't guessed I had a crazy weekend. One cat at the vets with bronchitis, the two kittens flying off the wall and driving me insane. My husband sprained his ankle so is on crutches and ... in the meantime I'm still unemployed although it looks good for a job by the end of November. I just felt like I was coming unglued for parts of it, but I bounce back nicely and things are getting better. :-)



Having some fun with music memes - here's another!

Take Me Back Tuesday - Week 41

All right...let's see if I can think of something a little more player friendly for this week.

Name three songs with music or music related words in the title.

1. Let the Music Play
2. Make Your Own Kind of Music
3. The Music is You

Name three artists with music related words in their name.

1. Lena HORNe
2. David SINGER
3. Simon BELL

Name three albums with music or music related words in the title.

1. Can't Stop The Music - Village People
2. The Jazz Singer - Neil Diamond
3. Serenade - Neil Diamond

Happy meme'ing



Waiting to drive my husband home so decided to log onto his computer and have some fun while waiting...so onto Insanity and the Monday Music Mambo!

Greetings crazy mamboers! Your music-loving memeduck is back again with more music questions to make you think and make you dance. Monday the 17th is Brain Cell Reduction Day! For some, that's every day, but that's another topic for another time. Let's start the mambo!

1. What kind of music, songs or artists do you listen to when you want to relax and use as few brain cells as possible?

Classical preferably Mozart. I have learned not to put on Wagner when I want to relax :-).

2. Can you think of a lyric or two that makes the songwriter seem like he or she had a sudden drop in brain cells when he or she was writing the song?

Little Annie Fannie, Morgan and Christian, Katy and Nathan, Tommy and Zem Zem....
(Joan Baez - Children and All That Jazz)

3. Sometimes a person completely misunderstands a lyric or can't think of the name of a song. We've all done it, there's no denying that. What are some of your greatest misheard lyric moments (or moments when you completely forgot the name of a song)? If you need some help, check out this site.

Ever since my sister was singing CCR's Bad Moon and sang There's a Bathroom on the right instead of There's a bad moon on the rise I can't sing it with the correct lyrics.

And now, because this is week 69 of the Mambo, a bonus question:

4. Who do you think has the sexiest singing voice? Could be male, female or both.

Hands down Luther Vandross. No competition.

Yeah yeah, I have a dirty mind. I'm sure I'm not the only one!

The rules are, there are no rules!!! All you need to do is copy and paste the above questions into your blog and add your responses. After you've finished, return here and leave us a comment so we'll know you've Mamboed. Be sure your Mambo is linked back to http://bdinsanity.blogdrive.com so others can dance too.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. If one of the questions doesn't inspire you then simply "pass" it. Just use your imagination and dance like crazy!

If you don't have a blog or you're an exhibitionist *woo hoo* feel free to Mambo right here in our comments section. There's absolutely no pressure ... although it's called the Monday Music Mambo you can Mambo on any day.


Sunday, October 16, 2005


ARD - Area Recognition Day for TOPS! And for those who don't know TOPS stands for Take Off Pounds Sensibly. I didn't go to this years ARD rally, but one of my friends and fellow members did and lo and behold! I won an award for perfect attendance. Okay, it isn't a big deal but it's fun to have another charm and ribbon to add to my sash. She said after lunch they even had line dancing and since I had gotten her to take lessons with me she was able to get up there and dance with the group. So she had a ball and I even got something out of it! So now she's happy I talked her into taking the lessons and wants to go even more now.


Saturday, October 15, 2005


STOCKS:

Normally I avoid discussing my advice regarding buying or selling stocks, but I feel this is important enough to share and warn you since this explosive situation might prove to be yet another ENRON.

Please review any holdings you might have in the following stocks:

*American Can
*Interstate Water
*National Gas Company
*Northern Tissue Company

I advise you to sit tight on your American Can, hold your water and let go of your gas. You may be interested to know that Northern Tissue touched a new bottom today and millions were wiped clean!

It's a tough market out there. Be careful!



Well, good news to report in the employment dept! By the end of November I will be among the employed! I won't put details here because someone who unfortunately would like to see bad things happen to me reads this and would cause problems for me. If anyone wants details on the job email me and I will be happy to share. How's that for a teaser? But good things are happening now that I have moved away from the negative force in my life. It was amazing that the very next day after I severed ties completely with this negative force that all sorts of good things came my way.

In the meantime I'm helping another friend with her housekeeping business. So that's some good money coming in on top of my house/pet sitting. Once I get a REAL job I will have to let these temporary things go, but for now....

Life is good!!!!!!


Thursday, October 13, 2005


I wish I could get a picture of this, it is so cute, but you know cats. As soon as I get the camera out they stop doing the cute stuff and sit there looking like ordinary cats, or they take off in a streak and all I get is a blur. Anyway...

You all know the story of our two kittens, Delia the devil cat, and Marmadukealade the not quite male/not quite female cat. Since their traumatic surgery and recovery they have become demon cats again. But, Delia has developed a love of stuffed animals. We have a few around that she can get to and she will carry them around like they were kittens. The funny part is she carries stuffed animals that are twice as big as her!! She will drag them into boxes to hide them on Marmadukealade who follows her around trying to get them away from her.

But the cutest thing is she has developed a love for a Sylvester pillow. It is just the face and is black and white (like Bug who adopted her when she first moved in - I'll rehash on that in a bit) and she will carry it around and then jump up on the bed and leave it with Keith if he is still in bed. This pillow is bigger than her! I tried and tried to get a picture of it but it just isn't going to happen.

Anyway..about Bug and Delia...Bug is the black and white tuxedo cat that moved in on us a few years ago out of nowhere and just refused to leave. He knew when he had it good. When Delia joined us she was 6 weeks old and he took her under his wing..or paw in this case and snuggled her and she even nursed off him. They still snuggle once in awhile and groom each other, but she is growing up and doesn't need the comfort as much as she used to.

So, I will keep trying to get that picture and maybe someday I will and I'll post it.


Friday, October 07, 2005


I finally got it done. I wanted to do something for this months B4B because it was such a fun topic. So below is my entry.

It’s funny how a song playing at just the right moment can not only take on a life of its own, but bring new meaning to what you are doing at the time. Life takes some strange twists and turns and at fifty I found myself divorced and reunited with an old love. Old in the true sense of the word as we were both fifty. Also, our relationship had started over 35 years ago. We met at 15 and from that time on became the best of friends and lovers. Over the years we would each go in and out of different relationships, but whenever we were both free and needed someone we would drift back together. We had both been married numerous times – me twice and him three times. But something was always lacking.

So, here we were once again drifting into each others lives and wondering where it would lead this time. We started a business together and also moved in together, but still I felt uneasy about the relationship. And one day as we were making love, with the radio playing in the background, Meatloaf’s Two Out of Three came on.

As it played,”I want you, I need you, but there aint no way I’m ever gonna love you” I realized just what it was about us that didn’t feel right. Even though we said the words to each other it really wasn’t true. Oh, yes, I would always love him as a friend, but the words went deeper than friend love. There was no way I was ever going to love him in the "I want to be with you and no one else forever and ever" sense of the word.

We have since drifted apart again and each remarried, but we do keep in touch and now another song has taken on a better meaning for us. It was a song that Joan Baez sang that ran through my mind as I packed the last time I was leaving. “We may not always be the best of lovers, But if you leave it to me I think I can see, We’ll always be the best of friends.”


Thursday, October 06, 2005


Taken from Cheddar X

This is making the meme rounds right now and I thought I'd grab it before it became completely passe to do. And I added one more to make it a 7x7 and no more forwarding it to 7 people like a new age chain letter.

7 things you plan to do before you die:

1. Get back to north to see my family again.
2. See my friend Rick at least one more time.
3. Visit Alaska
4. Open a small used book store
5. Provide open mic for 'real' poets (see number 3)
6. Hike along the appalchian trail
7. Get back to VT and see all my friends there.

7 things you can do:

1. Play guitar
2. Play the violin (sort of :-))
3. Play scrabble ;-D
4. Write poetry
5. Give shots to cats
6. Love
7. Enjoy a sunrise or sunset

7 things you cannot do:

1. Play banjo
2. Marshal arts
3. Program a computer
4. Drive a tractor
5. Fly a plane
6. Parachute from a plane
7. Stop the rain :-)

7 things you never thought you'd do:

1. Be married 3 times!
2. Live past 30 :-)
3. Produce a CD!
4. Have my own music production company
5. Live in so many states - including the state of confusion ;-D
6. Travel to Europe
7. Live in the south!


7 things that attract you to other people:

1. Honesty - don't lie to me or about me if you want to stay my friend
2. Integrity
3. Morals
4. Respect
5. Loyalty
6. Ability to love
7. Giving nature

7 things that you say most often:

1. Lord love a duck!
2. Shit fuck piss
3. No shit?
4. Get out of the way you stupid cat!!
5. Put on Art Bell
6. I'm going on line for a bit
7. What's it like outside today?

7 celebrity crushes:

Lord love a duck!! Do I really have to to this one? I'm 57 years old! Who can remember their childhood crushes... but let me try...

1. Peter Tork of the Monkees
2. William Holden - Sugarfoot
3. Peter Noone - Hermans Hermits
4. Bobby Breen
5. Joan Baez
6. oh dear... I know there were more but I can't think of the names right now.

Shamelessly lifted from Flower in the Breeze who had it tagged to her.
Happy Cheddaring!


Wednesday, October 05, 2005



Oh what a beautiful morning... When I stepped outside today and was greeted by a cool breeze that old song came to mind. Oh what a beautiful morning, oh what a beautiful day, I've got a wonderful feeling, Everything's going my way. And then I realized it was!! My hip didn't hurt as much today, the weather was perfect, and all I had to do was go pick up some filters for the air vent and I got to spend the rest of the day cleaning and doing what needed to be done around the house. No obligations to anyone except myself today and I was loving it! And now a refreshing rain is washing everything clean. So... oh what a beautiful morning! Oh what a beautiful day!


Tuesday, October 04, 2005


http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Blogging4Books-Announce/ For those interested Blogging for Books has a fun topic for this months competition.

Since Off The Record is about a plain, predictable, responsible woman named Jane Marlow who discovers that a one-hit wonder 12 years ago was written about HER, this month's topic should be about your close personal relationship, real or imagined, with a song. If you, like me, are dead inside and have no close personal relationships with songs, I suggest you lie. You could, for example, write about your close, personal relationship with your childhood dog, and substitute "Tainted Love by Soft Cell" for her name. This will inevitably lead to sentences like, "Ah those halcyon days running through the meadows with Soft Cell's Tainted Love gamboling innocently beside me..." and "Tainted Love by Soft Cell brought back the stick no matter how many times I threw it." But that's what you get for being dead inside.

B4B closes at MIDNIGHT your time next Monday.

I'm going back and forth between a couple songs but hope to have an entry for this one. I never win but I have fun getting the creative juices flowing. So, if you aren't a subscriber to B4B but love to write you might want to check them out.



HUH?? Last week I went to Voc/Rehab here to see if they could help me get a job, since my arthritis is considered a disability. One of the first things I was asked was why I didn't apply for disability... fast forward to today.... one of the places she sent me when I explained I wanted to work not collect a disability check was to Job Services. They have a program called Experience Works and it's to help people 55 and over find employment and put their experience to work. I had an appt. to see the woman who heads it up and went in this morning. Well, she informs me this is for low income families only...since my husband is employed he would have to make $16,000 or less a year for me to be eligible.... UNLESS I went on disability and then she could help me. She explained if I went on disability then I would be considered a one person family and my disability income would be the only income that counted. HUH??? Right now I have 0 income - zilch - nada!! but if I have an income from disability then I would be considered for the program. I am still trying to figure that one out.

But, I have issues with people telling me to apply for disability. Yes, I have a disability but I am not disabled. See, I have a friend named Rick whom I have known since we were 15. Rick was born with spina-bifida and his back is mishapen, his legs never grew and he has a lot of health issues due to this. Rick had a band in the 60's and 70's called the Electric Zoo. He plays rhythmn and bass guitar, keyboards, sings and writes his own songs. He got around in his wheelchair better than most people who have the use of both legs. He worked in customer service because you could sit all day and just help people over the phone. When I got divorced and we were both in our 50's we started a music promotion company to fulfill a childhood dream of ours. A few years ago Rick could no longer sit comfortably for 8 hours a day and is now on oxygen 24/7 and is now collecting disability. So, I have a hard time thinking I deserve disability when I can walk, I can type, I can sit in a chair 8 hours a day and do the customer service work we both did in Florida and I also did in PA. There is a difference between having a disability and being disabled.

I know people who are more disabled than Rick will ever be and it isn't a physical disability but a disability of character, morals, judgement, etc. They are crippled in their minds and therefor mentally disabled. But, for people to tell me to get on disability irks me. If I have to I guess I will have to, but I am going to explore all other avenues first and somewhere there is a job out there with my name on it. Somewhere there is someone out there who will look at me as a viable person with a lot to contribute yet to the workforce and say, yes, we want you. Somewhere out there someone will look at me as a person and not a disability. They will not see my mishapen fingers, not care that I limp with pain some days and that other days the pain is so bad I have to drag my left leg along...They will only care that my mind is sharp and I am a hard worker who gives 100% to the job. Until that day... the hunt continues.



Pity the poor misguided souls: Ah, alack and alas, someone has taken it upon themselves to post, out of spite, a bunch of back stabbing lies on their blog about me and another friend, simply because we chose to leave the TOPS group due to an extreme change in this persons attitude that has made it uncomfortable to sit through the meetings. In the past few weeks this person has changed from a nice caring person to someone I don't recognize. Mean, vindictive, and just plain cruel. Publicly humiliating her mother and trying to play mind games with others and trying to take control over the group. It just wasn't working for us so we chose to move on. Now this person has posted a bunch of hateful lies and it just isn't going to work. I pity her and hope she finds what she is looking for, but anyone who needs to stoop that low to build their own self-esteem needs some help. Of course, her friends who have never met us, will never hear our side are saying poor her...ah, if they only knew. But I know, and the others in the group know, and that is all that is important.

Why am I not defending the point, because there really was no point. Just the ramblings of an angry person. Why don't I write my side? Because a wise person once said there are three sides to every story. My side, their side, and the truth lies somewhere in between. I suppose I could do as they did and type my perspective on it, although I wouldn't fill mine with lies trying to cause dissention between her and her friends, but it would be my side and my side only. Of course, my friends would side with me but it wouldn't be fair. It just made me sad to see the rantings and ravings on this persons blog that were so full of half truths and some downright lies that I just wanted to put something here that says be careful what you write..it may come back to bite you in the ass.

If anyone reading this blog has issues with someone else and have to post about it on their blog at least try to post the truth and remember that others will be reading your blog so don't embarrass yourself with rantings that are obviously full of anger and vindictiveness and then say you have no anger. Sigh... well, as the song says...

oobla dee oobla da...life goes on!


Monday, October 03, 2005


Monday Music Mambo - Week 67
Hello you crazy Mamboers! This is your NEW mememeister rfduck, taking over for Friday while she gets things settled with her new place and waits for internet service. This is my first time writing the Mambo and I'm very excited!

Allow me to briefly introduce myself. I'm 25, male, live in Oregon, and I LOVE music! You can find my blog at rfduck.blogspot.com and of course I mambo every Monday with the rest of you!

Before I get this mambo started, let's give a round of applause for Friday and all the hard work she's done for us! Even with all the hurricane drama, she's somehow found time to update this site. That's awesome!

To honor our good friend Friday, I'll begin the mambo with some New Orleans-related questions.

1. Who are some of your favorite New Orleans and Louisiana musicians? (Here's a list to get you started: Fats Domino, Louis Armstrong, Harry Connick, Jr.)

Hmmmmmm....interesting question. Personally I never even think about where a musician is from. If I like their music I like their music, but don't get into where they were born, etc. Too technical for me. I just want to enjoy what they do.

2. Gumbo is a favorite New Orleans meal. It's a big pot filled with all sorts of vegetables, seafood, meat, all held together by a thick dark roux. What's in your musical gumbo? (Artists, bands, styles etc.)

Arlo Guthrie, Janis Joplin, Joan Baez, Bob Dylan, Joni Mitchell, Judy Collins, Meatloaf (the singer not the food), Phranc, Susan Vega, Pete Seeger,CCR, and a little of the Irish Rovers for flavoring.

Now, in honor of today's theme which is Income Tax Day (ugggghhh!), here's the third Mambo question.

3. Your income tax return has finally arrived! You've budgeted enough money for five new CDs. What are you going to get?

Positively Phranc - Phranc
Bat out of Hell - Meatloaf
Freewheelin' - Bob Dylan
Diamonds and Rust - Joan Baez
God Bless the Grass - Pete Seeger (this one especially because it has one of my all time favorites of his... The People are Scratching

The rules are, there are no rules!!! All you need to do is copy and paste the above questions into your blog and add your responses. After you've finished, return here and leave us a comment so we'll know you've Mamboed. Be sure your Mambo is linked back to http://bdinsanity.blogdrive.com so others can dance too.


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