Posted 3:46 PM by Bonnie

Goodbye my friend: It's funny how an obituary can make a persons life seem so trivial and unimportant. My neighbor and friend, from the old apartment complex, died Monday after two weeks in a coma. The obituary doesn't mention the years she dedicated to nursing, even after having a kidney transplant some ten years ago. Or how she suffered from diabetes due to the transplant. It doesn't talk about how she loved her ferrets and would drive all the way to Columbia to get care for them. Not one word is mentioned of what a good friend she was and how she listened and cared and helped me with the stray cats even though, due to her kidney transplant she couldn't have cats of her own. We named many a stray cat together. Shortly before we moved her kidney started rejecting and she was getting sicker and sicker. One day she told me she was tired of feeling so sick and tired and helpless all the time. She didn't want to go through dialysis again. She didn't want to go through another transplant. She was tired of fighting.

After we moved I would drop by but she was always sleeping, or if she was up she was too tired for company. I would call but she never felt like talking. I wanted to tell her about the two stray cats that were coming around here. The large white and gray male with the scarred up face we named Scarface, and the little gray and white female who follows him around adoringly we named Little Friend. Pam loved movies and would have appreciated the reference.

Two weeks ago her blood sugar jumped to over a thousand and she began to seizure. She was rushed to the hospital where she was in an out of a coma. On Monday Pam died and it's odd to think I'll never see her again and now I'll never get to tell her about Scarface and Little Friend. Rest in peace Pam you will be missed.


Goodbye My Friend Lyrics by Karla Bonoff

Oh we never know where life will take us
I know it's just a ride on the wheel
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the time together through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now
Goodbye my friend

I've seen a lot things that make me crazy
And I guess I held on to you
We could've run away and left well maybe
But it wasn't time and we both knew

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the love you gave me through all the years
Will take away these tears
I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend

Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why

But I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend
You can go now
Goodbye my friend