Posted 2:05 PM by Bonnie

Makeup, Hair cuts, nails and wedding rings:

Hair and nails: I work out at CURVES 3 days a week and every once in awhile chat with the women who are working there. Today one very proudly announced the man who founded CURVES wants to open up a place, in Sumter, for the total woman... it would not only have a CURVES, but a hair salon, a nail salon, etc... I looked at her and said I am going to write him and explain what the total woman is all about, because I find it demeaning that he would think all women who work out at CURVES are nothing but fluff. I told her if she wanted to suggest this to him, she might tell him the total woman is more than that... he should put in a karate school or at least have some sort of self defense course, a day care for women who would like to go to CURVES, but have no where to leave their children... I made a few suggestions and got jumped on by my sister-in-law, who likes to have her nails done twice a week and pay $25 a shot even though she and my brother are struggling with bills because he was layed off for so long... but that's another part of this blog... anyway... I am going to let this man know women are brains and think about things other than getting their hair and nails done. The total woman has brawn as well as brains and a body, and real women have muscles and a lot of women would find his idea of a total woman insulting.

Make-up: A few weeks back, while at CURVES, with a couple friends they told me they were going to give me a make over. I asked why? They said I would be so much prettier with some make up and a new hair do. I told them I liked me fine the way I am and so did my husband, so who were they to try to make me different. They became quite argumentative that women should wear make-up. I asked why I should make-up for being a woman? In the end I told them they no more had the right to try to tell me I should wear make-up than I had to tell them they shouldn't. I asked how would they like it if I told them I was going to take them some place and have all the gook washed off their faces. End of conversation.

Wedding rings: Today over coffee my sister-in-law asked me why I never wore a watch. I told her I didn't like wearing jewelry. I had never gotten used to it and even putting a ring on felt odd and awkward, so I didn't even wear a wedding ring. She became incensed over this insisting all married women should wear their rings and if they didn't it was because they wanted to cheat. I told her I was just as married without a ring and would not consider cheating. She said men did the same thing. I told her I knew plenty of men and women who wore their wedding rings up to the time they decided to cheat, including herself, so who was she to talk. She said, well, your brother cheated on me first. Yes, I said, but you took off your wedding band and shacked up with some guy in Las Vegas, and put the wedding ring back on when you begged my brother to take you back, so how much did a wedding ring mean then. She still insisted it meant a lot... uh huh... well, I will continue to go ringless and not cheat on my husband. The ring is a symbol, not what makes me married. I was married to this man long before we said I will.

Now about paying $25 twice a month to have your nails done, when you are struggling to pay bills. I find this selfish as all get out, but she doesn't see it that way. She thinks she should come first. She complains my brother is always tired and not romantic. I asked why should he be, when he works so hard then comes home and has to do the cooking and cleaning because she is always too tired? Because it would please her. I asked her if she didn't think it should go both ways? Somehow she thinks that watching tv all day (she talks about dumb shows and soap operas all the time) and getting her nails done should be all she needs to do.

My brother wants to join a gym but, she joined CURVES and she said they can't afford both. I asked didn't she think that he deserves to join a gym too and maybe she could give up having her nails done twice a month and limit it to once and then put that extra money away for him to join a gym. She was aghast she should give something up for him. This is nothing but a I can't believe she said that blog, because I am just amazed at how selfish and self centered some people can be.

Well, off to play some scrabble then compose a letter to the CURVES guy and let him know what a total woman is and wants.

Happy Blogging!